I offer opinions with regards to the wedding, and instead of talking about them, they are either immediately shut down, or I am immediately shut out and given the silent treatment or hours, or a day. Just for offering an opinion, not for saying "WE HAVE TO DO THIS".
The quote comes from the "cheaper caterer" and it ends up not being significantly cheaper than the caterer that has more options that are not purely Indian food. I say that I think we should talk to the other caterer and see if we can talk down the price and see if we can work with him on the menu and see where the final numbers come in so we have something to truly compare. And BOOM, silence for the rest of the evening... into the morning. I wasn't asking for anyone else to do the negotiation. We had already picked items on the menu to talk to the caterer before we found the 'cheaper one', there was no work to be done on her end. But she has her mind made up of who "she" wants to use.
I get sent hashtag suggestions (I have sent several emails with them to no avail with no response) and they have only her last name in them, or are about the 3Day, which is a huge part of our lives, and is indeed how we met, but 80% of our guests will have NO IDEA what that hashtag is about. No reference to my name in the hashtags.
What role do I play in this all? She tells our therapist that she doesn't care whether or not my brother is in the wedding. She tells me that if I decide to keep him in there has to be major stipulations and I have to have a major talk with him and he has to apologize to her. I am not saying that I disagree with the apology, or that some restrictions need to be made, but why not be honest with the therapist, why are we going to therapy if not to talk tings out. We talk about my issues when we are in joint sessions. That isn't fair.
I just feel lost and anxious and unheard. And truly, nothing I say matters.
The quote comes from the "cheaper caterer" and it ends up not being significantly cheaper than the caterer that has more options that are not purely Indian food. I say that I think we should talk to the other caterer and see if we can talk down the price and see if we can work with him on the menu and see where the final numbers come in so we have something to truly compare. And BOOM, silence for the rest of the evening... into the morning. I wasn't asking for anyone else to do the negotiation. We had already picked items on the menu to talk to the caterer before we found the 'cheaper one', there was no work to be done on her end. But she has her mind made up of who "she" wants to use.
I get sent hashtag suggestions (I have sent several emails with them to no avail with no response) and they have only her last name in them, or are about the 3Day, which is a huge part of our lives, and is indeed how we met, but 80% of our guests will have NO IDEA what that hashtag is about. No reference to my name in the hashtags.
What role do I play in this all? She tells our therapist that she doesn't care whether or not my brother is in the wedding. She tells me that if I decide to keep him in there has to be major stipulations and I have to have a major talk with him and he has to apologize to her. I am not saying that I disagree with the apology, or that some restrictions need to be made, but why not be honest with the therapist, why are we going to therapy if not to talk tings out. We talk about my issues when we are in joint sessions. That isn't fair.
I just feel lost and anxious and unheard. And truly, nothing I say matters.